Our Story
We failed at marriage in our twenties.
Then God rebuilt everything.
Mike & Katie Palitto founded Finding Adam Finding Eve because the wounds that end marriages are the same wounds that prevent them from forming in the first place.
Nine years ago, Jesus brought us together — not just to fulfill the promise of marriage, but to heal our wounds and restore what was broken.
Both of us failed at marriage in our twenties. We didn't include God, we weren't formed well, and we ignored the wisdom of those who loved us. We thought love alone would be enough. It wasn't.
For eight years through Finding Adam Finding Eve, we've mentored hundreds of Catholic singles and couples. We kept seeing the same heartbreaking patterns: brilliant people with zero self-knowledge, hearts overflowing with love but paralyzed by fear, longing for marriage but unprepared for real commitment.
So we asked a different question: What if people could get this formation before they make the most important decision of their lives?
That's what Finding Adam Finding Eve is — formation for the journey to authentic love. For teens who haven't started dating yet. For young adults navigating it now. For everyone who believes love is worth doing well.
“You don't have to figure this out alone. We're here to walk with you.”
— Mike & Katie Palitto
The 7+1 Framework
The path to marriage has been dismantled.
Seven converging cultural forces have created a self-reinforcing system destroying the capacity for love. No single-factor solution works.
Digital Rewiring
The first generation raised on smartphones enters adulthood with impaired social skills and dopamine systems trained on screens.
The Economic Trap
Student debt, unaffordable housing, and wage stagnation have removed the material foundation for marriage.
The Community Desert
Third places have collapsed. There are almost no organic contexts left where young people encounter one another as whole persons.
The Female Wound
Culture told women their distinctive gifts were weaknesses. The feminine genius has been suppressed, not destroyed.
The Male Wound
Men face identity crisis and mass withdrawal. The masculine genius of initiative-taking love has been suppressed, not destroyed.
Attraction Distortion
Pornography and social media have recalibrated desire. Dating apps reduced encounter to a 3-second swipe.
The Fertility Doom Loop
All six factors suppress family formation, creating a self-reinforcing spiral. Each generation is less equipped for love.
The Catholic Answer
Catholic anthropology uniquely provides a unified vision of the whole person — body, soul, identity, and vocation. Thousands of years of Church teachngs interwoven into modern psychology, the feminine and masculine geniuses, complementarity, and the parish community together address what no single-factor solution can.
Theological Foundation
Be Known. Be Chosen. Be Given.
Be Known
Original Solitude — know who you are before God. Identity formation precedes relationship formation. You cannot give what you do not possess.
Be Chosen
Original Unity — the communion of persons. Being recognized and chosen by another. God does the bringing — FAFE helps you become capable of recognition.
Be Given
The Law of Gift — total self-donation. Marriage as sacrament. The body's language of love spoken fluently because it has been formed, healed, and ordered toward the real person in front of you.
Our Foundation
Grounded in Catholic Teaching
Everything we teach is drawn from the same books and documents your priest or spiritual director would reference — 2,000 years of Church wisdom on love, relationships, marriage, and the human person.
Sacred Scripture
All 73 books of the Catholic Bible
Catechism
2,865 paragraphs of official Church teaching
Theology of the Body
St. John Paul II's 129 audiences on love and sexuality
Papal Encyclicals
16 documents on marriage, family, and moral life
Summa Theologica
St. Thomas Aquinas on love, virtue, and human nature
Catholic Meta-Model
Integrating Catholic anthropology with modern psychology
Join the mission
Whether you're a teen, a young adult, a parent, a teacher, or a parish leader — there's a place for you.