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Safety Guide

Last Updated: March 14, 2026

At FINDING LLC, doing business as Finding Adam Finding Eve ("FAFE," "we," "us," or "our"), your safety is our priority. Whether you are using the Game of Love app, attending an in-person event, participating in coaching, or enrolled in the Before Forever program, it is important to take steps to protect yourself. This Safety Guide provides tips and best practices to ensure your experience is secure and enriching. By using our Services, you agree to follow these guidelines alongside our Terms of Use and Privacy Policy.

1. Protect Your Personal Information

Sharing too much too soon can put you at risk. Here is how to stay safe:

  • Keep Sensitive Details Private: Avoid sharing your full name, home address, workplace, phone number, or financial information (e.g., bank details, credit card numbers) in your profile, messages, or early conversations.
  • Use the App's Messaging System: Communicate through our in-app messaging feature until you are confident about the person you are talking to. This helps keep your personal contact info secure.
  • Be Cautious with Photos: Do not upload images that reveal identifiable locations (e.g., your home or office) or sensitive details (e.g., a visible ID or license plate).
  • Guard Your Login Credentials: Never share your account password with anyone. Use a strong, unique password and enable any available security features.

2. Get to Know People Safely

Building trust takes time. Follow these steps to connect wisely:

  • Take Your Time: Do not rush into sharing personal details or meeting in person. Chat within the app to gauge compatibility and comfort.
  • Verify Identity: Look for consistent behavior and ask questions to confirm someone is who they claim to be. Be wary if their stories do not add up or they avoid video chats/calls after a reasonable time.
  • Watch for Red Flags: Be cautious if someone:
    • Pressures you for personal info or money.
    • Refuses to share basic details about themselves.
    • Seems overly eager to move off the app to private channels (e.g., email, texting).
    • Claims a crisis and asks for financial help.

3. Meeting in Person

If you decide to meet someone from the app, prioritize safety:

  • Choose Public Places: Meet in a well-lit, busy location like a café, restaurant, or park — never at your home or theirs for a first meeting.
  • Tell a Friend: Share your plans with a trusted friend or family member, including who you are meeting, where, and when. Consider sharing your live location via your phone.
  • Stay in Control: Arrange your own transportation to and from the meeting. Do not rely on your date for a ride.
  • Set Boundaries: Decide in advance what you are comfortable with and stick to it. It is okay to leave if you feel uneasy.

4. Recognize and Avoid Scams

Online dating can attract scammers. Protect yourself by:

  • Avoiding Money Requests: Never send money, gift cards, or financial help to someone you have only met online, no matter the reason (e.g., travel costs, emergencies).
  • Spotting Fake Profiles: Look out for signs like stock photos, vague profiles, or overly polished messages that feel scripted.
  • Reporting Suspicious Behavior: If someone asks for money, seems fraudulent, or makes you uncomfortable, report them to us immediately (see Section 10).

5. Stay Safe Digitally

Your online security matters as much as your physical safety:

  • Use Strong Passwords: Create a unique, strong password for your Finding Adam Finding Eve account and do not reuse it elsewhere.
  • Log Out: Sign out of the app when using shared or public devices.
  • Beware of Links: Do not click on links or download attachments from users you do not trust — they could contain malware or phishing attempts.
  • Keep Your App Updated: Install app updates promptly; they often include security improvements.
  • Monitor Your Account: Review your account activity periodically. If you notice anything unusual, change your password and contact us.

6. Trust Your Instincts

Your comfort and well-being come first:

  • Say No When Needed: You are not obligated to continue a conversation or meet someone if you are not feeling it.
  • End Uncomfortable Interactions: Use the app's block feature to stop contact with anyone who makes you feel uneasy.
  • Seek Help: If you feel threatened or unsafe, contact local authorities and let us know so we can assist.

7. Teen Safety (Before Forever Program)

The Before Forever program is designed for students ages 14–19 participating through Catholic schools and parishes. These additional safety guidelines apply to teen participants:

For Teen Participants

  • Never Share Personal Information: Do not share your real name, phone number, address, school name, or social media accounts with anyone through the Before Forever app. The app is designed so you do not need to provide this information.
  • Keep It at School or Parish: Your Before Forever experience is meant to be part of your school or parish program. Do not use the app to communicate with people outside of your program setting.
  • Talk to a Trusted Adult: If anything in the program makes you uncomfortable, or if you have questions about the topics discussed, talk to your teacher, youth minister, parent, or another trusted adult.
  • Report Concerns: If another participant or adult makes you feel unsafe, uncomfortable, or crosses a boundary, tell your teacher or youth minister right away. You can also use the app's report feature or ask a parent to contact us at [email protected].

For Parents and Guardians

  • Know the Program: The Before Forever program is a Catholic formation curriculum. It does not include any dating, matching, or social networking features. Your student's school or parish can provide you with a curriculum overview.
  • No PII Collected: FAFE does not collect your child's name, email, or other personally identifiable information. Accounts are managed by the school or parish.
  • Stay Engaged: Talk with your teen about what they are learning. The program is designed to spark family conversations about relationships, identity, and faith.
  • Your Rights: You may withdraw your student from the program at any time by contacting the school or parish.

8. In-Person Event Safety

When attending FAFE-organized events (workshops, retreats, Sunday Group Dates, conferences, and other gatherings):

Before the Event

  • Register in Advance: Pre-register so event organizers know who to expect and can plan accordingly.
  • Share Your Plans: Tell a trusted friend or family member where you are going, what time you expect to return, and who is organizing the event.
  • Know the Venue: Familiarize yourself with the event location, parking, and nearby public transportation.
  • Communicate Needs: Inform event organizers of any dietary restrictions, allergies, medical conditions, or accessibility needs.

During the Event

  • Check In: Follow the event check-in process so organizers can account for all attendees.
  • Stay in Common Areas: Remain in designated event spaces. If you feel uncomfortable in any situation, move to a common area where other attendees and organizers are present.
  • Buddy System: Consider attending with a friend, especially for evening events. Look out for one another.
  • Respect Boundaries: Respect the personal boundaries of all attendees. If someone is not interested in conversation or interaction, respect their wishes.
  • Report Concerns Immediately: If you witness or experience harassment, inappropriate behavior, or any safety concern, notify an event organizer immediately.

Emergency Procedures

  • Know the Exits: Note the location of emergency exits when you arrive.
  • Emergency Contacts: Event organizers will have a designated point of contact for emergencies. Know who this person is.
  • Call 911: In any emergency, call 911 first, then notify an event organizer.

Events Involving Minors (Ages 14–17)

  • Parental Consent Required: Written parental or guardian consent is required for minor participation.
  • Two-Deep Leadership: At least two trained, background-checked adults will be present at all events involving minors.
  • No Photography Without Consent: Minors will not be photographed or recorded without written parental consent. The default is no photography of minors.
  • Pick-Up Procedures: Parents or guardians must designate authorized persons for pick-up, if applicable.

9. Coaching Safety

If you are participating in FAFE coaching services (Message a Coach, Group Coach Sessions, or 1:1 Coaching):

Understanding the Coaching Relationship

  • Not Therapy: FAFE coaching is faith-based formation, not licensed mental health therapy. If you are experiencing a mental health crisis, please contact a licensed professional or crisis service (see Section 13).
  • Your Coach's Role: Coaches provide guidance, support, and accountability rooted in Catholic teaching. They are trained facilitators, not licensed counselors or therapists.
  • Your Autonomy: You make your own decisions. A coach's role is to help you reflect, grow, and discern — not to tell you what to do.

Boundaries in Coaching

  • Professional Boundaries: Your coaching relationship should remain professional. If a coach behaves in a way that makes you uncomfortable or crosses appropriate boundaries, report it immediately.
  • Confidentiality: Your coaching conversations are confidential, with exceptions for safety (e.g., imminent harm to self or others, abuse of a minor). See our Coaching Agreement.
  • Scheduling: Coaches are available during scheduled sessions and may have limited availability between sessions. Coaches are not available for crisis intervention.

When to Seek Professional Help

Coaching is not a substitute for professional care. Seek a licensed professional if you are experiencing:

  • Suicidal thoughts or self-harm urges
  • Severe depression or anxiety
  • Trauma responses or PTSD symptoms
  • Substance abuse
  • Domestic violence or abuse
  • Any mental health crisis

Reporting Concerns About a Coach

If you have concerns about a coach's behavior, boundaries, or conduct:

  1. Contact us at [email protected] with details of your concern.
  2. We will investigate promptly and take appropriate action.
  3. You may discontinue coaching at any time without penalty.

10. Reporting Issues

We are here to support you. If something goes wrong:

  • Report in the App: Use the "Report" button on profiles or messages to flag harassment, inappropriate behavior, or scams. Provide details so we can investigate.
  • Contact Us: Email [email protected] for urgent concerns or follow-ups. Include screenshots or specifics to help us act quickly.
  • Teen Reporting: Before Forever participants should report concerns to their teacher, youth minister, or parent first. Adults can contact us on behalf of a teen.
  • Event Reporting: At in-person events, report concerns to the event organizer immediately. Follow up via email if needed.
  • Our Response: We review reports promptly and may suspend or ban users who violate our Terms of Use. We will keep you updated as allowed by privacy laws.

11. Facilitator Safety Standards

All FAFE facilitators (coaches, workshop leaders, Before Forever instructors) are held to the following safety standards:

  • Diocese Safe Environment Training: All facilitators who work with minors must complete their diocese's approved safe environment training program (e.g., Virtus Protecting God's Children, or the equivalent program required by their diocese) before facilitating any session.
  • Background Checks: All facilitators must pass a criminal background check through FAFE's designated provider or their diocese's approved provider before any interaction with participants.
  • Two-Deep Leadership: At least two trained, background-checked adults must be present at all sessions involving minors.
  • Mandatory Reporting: All FAFE facilitators acknowledge and comply with mandatory reporting obligations under applicable state law. If a facilitator becomes aware of suspected abuse or neglect of a minor, elderly person, or dependent adult, they are required to report it to the appropriate authorities.
  • FAFE Training: All facilitators must complete FAFE's Facilitator Training Program before leading sessions.
  • Code of Conduct: All facilitators agree to FAFE's Code of Conduct, which includes maintaining appropriate boundaries, treating all participants with dignity and respect, and upholding Catholic values.

12. Digital Wellbeing

We care about your overall wellbeing, including your relationship with technology:

  • Screen Time Awareness: Be intentional about how much time you spend on any app, including ours. Set personal limits that support your mental and spiritual health.
  • Notification Management: Adjust your notification settings to avoid feeling overwhelmed. You can customize notifications in the app's settings.
  • Take Breaks: It is healthy to step away from the app and focus on in-person relationships, prayer, and other activities that nourish you.
  • Healthy Comparisons: Remember that app profiles represent only a small part of someone's life. Avoid unhealthy comparisons that can affect your self-worth.
  • Formation Over Consumption: Our platform is designed for formation and growth, not endless scrolling. Use the tools purposefully and reflect on what you learn.

13. Additional Resources

For more safety tips or support:

  • Online Safety: Visit StaySafeOnline.org for general digital safety advice.
  • Relationship Safety: National Domestic Violence Hotline — thehotline.org, 1-800-799-7233.
  • Mental Health Crisis: 988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline — call or text 988.
  • Emergency: Contact emergency services (911) if you are in immediate danger.
  • Child Safety: Childhelp National Child Abuse Hotline — 1-800-422-4453.
  • Online Child Safety: National Center for Missing and Exploited Children — missingkids.org, 1-800-843-5678.

14. Our Commitment to You

We use reasonable measures to keep our platforms and events safe, including profile moderation, facilitator background checks, safe environment training compliance, and secure data handling (see our Privacy Policy). However, we cannot control every user's actions or every circumstance at events. By following this guide, you help us maintain a respectful, secure community.

15. Questions?

Have a safety concern or need advice? Reach out to:

FINDING LLC d/b/a Finding Adam Finding Eve Email: [email protected]